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How to Control Your Temper When Your Mad at Your Kids
Without getting too gushy, let's admit it: us guys, we love our kids. We've been head over heels for them since the doctor caught them on the way out, and our love keeps growing with every football pass, princess dress and Spongebob Squarepants video.
Raising a kid isn't all magic moments and inspiring milestones, though. In fact, you're a lucky dad if the ratio of fun to frustration is 50/50. For us normal dads, we're going to spend a lot more time on the frustrated side of the equation, and at times it may seem like all the fun is long behind you.
It's tough work, and it can get to you. Kids cry, scream, fuss, fight, tear things up, break things, get dirty, get other things dirty, get you dirty - they basically do all the things you did (and all the things your mother promised your kid would do to you) - and they'll continue doing these things until you teach them not to.
Being a teacher can be hard when you're ready to throttle the students, though. Your kids won't react well to anger, either; in fact, they're more likely to pick up cues from you and become angry themselves. Children are already in a complex and fragile state, learning to deal with emotions like anger in a healthy way. If you show them that dealing with anger means screaming, throwing things, or just quietly raging and lashing out at anyone who crosses your path, your little boy or girl is going to pick up on that.
Avoiding anger and taking the high road is important for your health, the health of your child and the wellbeing of your family. Follow these tips to keep the pot from boiling over:
- Step back and take a breath. Your kids are bound to do things that make your temper flare, but reacting in anger will probably do more harm than good. Remember: by reacting to anger you're teaching your child how to react to anger, too. If you step back, take a breath and collect yourself, you show your child that anger does not control us; we control our anger.
- Don't overreact. Children are constantly testing the waters of our patience. After a long day of dealing with a troublesome toddler, you're likely to snap at the tiniest infraction. This can confuse your child, as you may have let many larger infractions slide earlier in the day. No matter how tired or frustrated you are, always keep things in perspective. For everything that deserves an angry reaction from you, there are a thousand less frustrating things that do not.
- Be a team. There are going to be times when there is nothing you can do but be angry. Children have a way of doing that to you. In situations like this, your best option is to hand your little one off to the spouse and take a breather. Go for a walk, clean out the car, grab a snack at the convenience store - anything to get yourself out of the house for a minute. Clearing your mind can do wonders for your disposition. Remember, however, that your spouse has been left holding the bag. Don't stay gone for too long, and don't balk when it'...